A Young Man’s Guide to Getting Some is a hilarious guide book that offers advice about how to woo the girl of your dreams in an ever-changing electronic world. The ‘Guide’ is a MANifesto for modern dating. The Guide provides creative and amusing advice about how to initiate contact, escaping the Friend Zone, respecting the effort she makes to look good, how to behave everywhere from a dinner date to Tinder and what to do before, during and after actually getting some. A big thank you to Author Malcolm Chenu for taking the time to answer some questions.
Is A Young Man’s Guide to Getting Some your first book?
– where would people have seen your work before?
A Young Man’s Guide to Getting Some is my first book. I am Sydney based writer and a regular contributor to Traveller in the Sydney Morning Herald, Escape in the Sunday Telegraph, QantasLink magazine and more. Pertinently, I once road-tested Spanx for men for Fairfax Media’s Executive Style.
What prompted you to write A Young Man’s Guide to Getting Some?
I wanted to make the world a nicer place.
I wanted to remind people that chemistry is created in person, not on a screen.
I wanted to write the book I wish I’d had when I was an incompetent young dater.
I wanted to make people laugh at the absurdity of the human condition.
What are the etiquette books that have influenced the writing of this book?
All of the content is the result of personal experience, talking to women and a desire to resurrect chivalry, respect and honour.
When did you feel that young men started to lose their way?
The male of the species has been doing stupid stuff to impress girls since the “Hey babe, watch me ride this sabre tooth tiger!” days. Much of this has ended in disaster. The rise of dating and hook-up apps has added a layer of complexity and sexting and swiping have replaced face-to-face interaction.
What is the one thing that Young Men need to stop doing?
Get out of the virtual world and start living in the real one. You could spend your life swiping on Tinder and one day find yourself searching www.lonesomewrinklies.com for a like-minded octogenarian with commitment issues, own teeth preferred.
What is the one thing that Young Men need to start doing?
The answer is both astonishingly simple and infuriatingly complex. It’s about little things and big things and sweet nothings. Showing more style and less butt crack; listening to her even when she talks during the footy; offering a foot massage without thinking it’s foreplay. It’s about putting her on a pedestal, even if that makes it harder to knock her off.
What is the one thing that you want everybody to take away from reading this book?
That taking the high road in dealings with women is not just the honourable path; it will bring far more success than the sleazy alternative. A Young Man’s Guide to Getting Some is full of the sort of tips and advice that will make you stand out from the crowd. Like how to escape the Friendzone, how to approach girls – on their own or cutting one out from the herd, getting a makeover for confidence, swiping for a reason, making her laugh, what to do on a dinner date, the first kiss, and the perennial question: what do women want?
Can we expect to see more A Young Man’s Guides from you in the future?
Maybe. I’ve already been asked to consider A Middle Aged Man’s Guide to Retaining Some.